Are We There Yet?
One of my favorite memories are summer road trips to visit family. It comes with all of the memories, my father driving and occasionally passing the same place.
Then our “Are we there yet?” switched to “Are we lost?” When I look back, I realize that most of the memories that I treasure where the ones I took for granted. They were the moments during the journey, exploring places along the ways, meals on the road, games played in the car, switching seats so that my brother and I could sit with a parent during the journey. We were happy to arrive at our destinations, but I what I remember is the joy of the journey.
It reminds me that sometimes we spend so time focusing on arriving at a place, goal or station in life. We can spend so much time looking at the goal, that we pass right by moments along the journey.
There are those who believe that once that arrive there, everything will be in place. This is called arrival fallacy.
“Arrival fallacy is this illusion that once we make it, once we attain our goal or reach our destination, we will reach lasting happiness,” Tal Ben-Shahar
