Perfecting Imperfection ...

Hello,

My name is Sheila P. Spencer and I am a recovering perfectionist.

Just saying that makes me take another deep breath.

I am very familiar with all of the isms of perfectionism.

The ism of making sure that the project, article was perfect.

The ism of making sure that every part of the process was perfect.

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The ism of making sure that nothing is missing in the planning.

The ism of making sure that all the steps of the planning were in place.

There are millions of perfect and flawless plans that have been created for books, projects, businesses , plays, articles and more. They have been created with care and every step has been taken into consideration.

The only thing that is missing is waiting for the perfect moment to carry out the plan ….. but the problem is waiting for the perfect moment is waiting for the moment that will never come.

A flawed plan that is carried out is worth more than a flawless plan that is never executed.

This is the Triple P Equation - Perfectionism (Having the Perfect Plan) + Procrastination (Waiting for the Perfect Moment) = Paralysis (Perfect Waste of Time) It’s an addition equation that actually ends up subtracting from your life.
— Sheila P. Spencer

The Triple P Equation will have you out here frozen … caught in between the perfectionism of the perfect plan and the procrastination of waiting for the perfect moment (That will never come). It ends up paralyzing us and nothing is done. Projects are created, questions aren’t ask. Do you know what doesn’t stop even if we do?

Time ….. it goes on marching past us while we are standing still.

When that happens, I go back to Wakanda (Stay with me now…. ) and I imagine that the projects, plans and ideas that are waiting to be birthed look at me and say:

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I literally visualize and hear my projects saying this, sometimes I ignore… but this season has been teaching me the importance of listening to her or rather my inner voice. There’s nothing wrong with working hard and having a healthy sense of striving, but perfectionism isn’t that.

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Imperfection is a gift. It releases us from the need to be perfect and have everything in place. It gives us the space to breathe and move and be and create. Think of all the things that you love. What if perfectionism froze the creatives and prevented them from creating. Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go Of Who You Think You’re Supposed To Be and Embrace Who You Are” is a treasure chest full of wisdom. Brene Brown reminds me that imperfection opens us up to possibilities.

In my mind, when Perfection has everyone frozen in the game of Freeze, imperfection is the one running around tagging and unfreezing everyone. Brene Brown also shares that perfectionism is a twenty ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us, when in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from taking flight. Perfectionism is too heavy to move, yet too empty to unpack.

Hello, my name is Sheila and I am a recovering perfectionist with occasional relapses. But I remember some of my most beautiful moments were created when plans were carried out, I’m talking beautiful, authentic, printing mistakes, being scared out of mind, taking the leap, doing the dang thing, asking the question, making myself completely vulnerable. Imperfect projects were created and blog were written and published …… just like what I am doing right now. This blog was flawlessly planned in my head, but the value increased when I took the time to write and post …imperfections and all. Thank you for being part of my conversation with myself.

When you step out and do the thing, there is alignment and confirmation in the most interesting ways. When I wrote this piece in my head and perfectionism almost kept it there. But then moments happen like this. You randomly open up a gift journal from a friend and you see this …

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A beautiful reminder to release a twenty ton weight ……

Perfectly Imperfect and Beautifully Flawed,

Sheila P Spencer

Recovering Perfectionist

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